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Tips for finding a boardgaming/RPG group?
- Erik Twice
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However, I have never really looked for a group. I mean, I did play with those train gamers for a while but it was very long ago and their elitism aside, we just weren't a good matchup. Most of them were twice my age or older and balked at the idea of playing aggressively, even in 18XX. I also tried to hang out with a group centered around a gaming podcast but they were literally cultists of the new. They never, ever replayed a game while I was there. So yeah, I haven't been doing this correctly.
I've been thinking about finding suitable people first (Nice people, my age, etc.) and then seeing if I can introduce the kind of games I like. If the group is big enoughs omeone might be interested...right?
Any tips welcome, I guess hahaha
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Best of luck with either option.
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You could try starting a club, casting a wide net, getting everyone to show up at a game store, then starting a side project with the people whose personalities and gaming interests mesh with yours. But that could take a year.
I'm interested about your process of culling extra things out of your life. Are you reading Marie Kondo?
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- Erik Twice
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I admit I'm a bit afraid of not being compatible :/
Sorry, I'm not well-read on the subject or anything it's just something I've been thinking about. I'm not there yet though I've been getting more serious about it over time.cranberries wrote: I'm interested about your process of culling extra things out of your life. Are you reading Marie Kondo?
1) I realized I had a ton of stuff I didn't use or care about: Books I only read once, old miniatures that hadn't seen the light of the day in years, music CDs I no longer like, anime series from when I was a teen and so on. They were not making me happy, were taking space and could be sold to accomodate stuff that actually would make me happy.
Interestingly enough, I realized this because I collect old videogames. I used to have a lot of games that were cool but that I didn't really play or care about, like 80-hours long Japanese RPGs. And one day I realized I had a ton of crap I didn't care about. I pruned my collection and now I only have games I enjoy owning and checking out. Why not do the same with the rest of my stuff?
For example, I'm selling the vast majority of my books. I just don't use them or care enough about them to justify the space they take. Why own something I only use once? They are not making me happy on a shelf so I've decided to purge all of them except for stuff I can see myself reading again several times.
2) I realized I was stuck in "The Lazy Zone". The "lazy zone" is like the sister of the "comfort zone", it's when you do something, not because it's the best use of your time, but because it requires less upfront resources than what you really want to do. So, for example, I have more fun playing a cool game than reading forums online but the former requires effort so I become "lazy" and only do the latter.
The thing is, it's a purely mental barrier and once I'm into it, it doesn't actually require more effort to play the cool game.
3) I realized I could sell my stuff and buy something I actually want. This is pretty self-explanatory but here's the thing: It's hard to oevrstate how much money we have tied in junk. I've sold 20 items and gotten around 300€ in return, that's insane! It's how I've been able to afford my model trains.
So my idea is to sell all the junk I don't care about it and use the money to improve my "core experiences".
4) I don't even want more entertainment. Between retrogaming, the ocassional modern game, writing on my blog, travelling, playing boardgames, playing a lifestyle CCG (Netrunner) and now finding a RPG group I have more entertainment than I'll ever need. I don't need to keep miniatures or get into sci-fi, this is enough.
So I think, why spend my time, space and money on unplayed Warhammer miniatures when I can double down on the better stuff?
Woha, that was a mouthfoul. Hope that helps.
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Point 4 is really strong too, i feel the same way.
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Yes, exactly. I feel like that too. I remember playing a bunch of stuff just because I had nothing better to do and it makes me feel bad. I think I should get rid of those days of guilty, unfulfilling play and turn them into something better, like beating Gradius or playing D&D.Black Barney wrote: I don't even think about it and am constantly asking myself (or feeling guilty) why aren't I playing something that I actually really want to play instead?
I mean, have you seen how excited I get when I really like a game? Why not be like that more often? It's not like playing Star Realms another hundred times is the best use of my time!
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As for game groups, meet up is good.
Failing that and referring back to your second point, plop a game you like on a table where gamers gather and camp out.
This way people walking by see you need players, will discuss what you got to offer for a game and you play a game you actually enjoy.
I'm kinda spoiled in Minneapolis for this type of thing, even though I rarely go out to game. But I just find an open table at the FFG event center, and inevitably I end up getting a game or two in of what I want to play. Sometimes sitting in on someone else's game where they have done the same thing will lead to playing what you brought afterwards as well.
My life is just too erratic, sadly, to play in a regular group. I wish I was 18 again and could afford that kind of time.
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I've found 2 groups like that and while one is meh at best the other are dedicated game dudes who want to play legit games
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