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Just had my 3-yr old, Emily, jump on my lap as I'm typing this, thank Christ I still have her at least.
Speaking of which, I can now completely understand why so many people find Jesus and their faith in times of personal tragedy. It must be enormously comforting to seek solace in prayer and to have total faith and conviction that someone is looking out for you and that's all part of a plan and such. I was raised Catholic, went to church growing up, lost my religion later in life, didn't get married in a Church, didn't have Emily baptized or anything. I sort of became a non-practicing atheist I suppose.
I'm not going to rediscover my religion or anything (I've started smoking again as a temporary crutch) but I had an epiphany these past couple days. For the first time in many years, I don't think any less of devout people, rather I find I'm profoundly envious of them.
Just wanted to share knowing I have friends here and fellow FATties have been through this recently as well. I love you guys.
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Ha! Guess i'll be Subotai to your Conan...execept I wont cry, but pray since you won't.
(Actually your post did make me start to tear up a little. Not sure a forum post has ever done that.)
I haven't been through his trial, but I'm sure better days are ahead for you. Hang in there, brother.
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Besides the faith part you touched on, I think the other thing that something like religion does in a more practical fashion is connect you to a network of people. Which is kind of vital to do again after a divorce. I'm not religious myself so I simply couldn't do it, but the community aspect of religion was pretty appealing to me post divorce.
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Since then, I have actually drifted even closer towards believing in God. However, the prospect of the existence of God doesn't fill me with happiness. Instead, I am bitter and angry about the idea of a supreme being who allows so much suffering in our world. What I went through was rough, but normal enough. But there are so many other people struggling through miserable lives, and it's horrible when innocent children are suffering like that.
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One does not simply walk out of Mordor.
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Shellhead wrote: Since then, I have actually drifted even closer towards believing in God. However, the prospect of the existence of God doesn't fill me with happiness. Instead, I am bitter and angry about the idea of a supreme being who allows so much suffering in our world.
Free will and faith, man. We have free will and without that faith could never be tested.
Barney - sorry to hear you are going through such a rough patch, but like Mr. White, I'll be praying for you and the family.
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I totally get what you mean about being envious of people's faith. Over the years I've seen my fair share of people trying to convince those of faith that their faith is misguided or a waste of time and I just don't understand that mentality. Religion and faith means a lot of different things to people, including comfort and I just hate to see someone trying to take that away from another. I'm not religious really. Myself, I've come to terms with the fact that I believe in God, but the rest of the stuff is questionable to me.
Anyway, try to be around people that care about you and don't spend inordinate amounts of time alone. If you need to talk, let it fly man, it's good to get that stuff out of your head. I'll be thinking about you and hope things get better sooner rather than later.
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10 years ago my recent ex (less than 2 wks separation) decided to move in next to me and start to date the entire male population of Kuwait (or at least it seemed that way to me). To cap it all she 'accidently' sent me an email, meant for one of her boyfriends, asking if it was OK to give him a blow job in the shopping mall when she saw him!!! That was really bad.
She tried her best to make friends with me but it didn't really work. I went and found a nice Russian girl who was non too impressed that the ex wife lived next to me!! Worse, she would get drunk, fuck someone and then come over to talk to me, her best friend, about her problems with alcohol and relationships.
Eventually, after she remarried (still living next to me) I had an argument about child support with her (too boring to go into). Her response was to ban the two girls from ever seeing me, instruct her maid never to take the girls round and eventually leave Kuwait, with the girls to Shanghai, without a word. Only one of the sisters deems to talk to me now after both of them being banned by their Mum from any communication with me for 9 years.
Basically, don't let it degenerate to those ridiculous heights of absurdness. Make friends, as others have said, use your family for support and fly to Russia!!
Religious faith is not in my skillset, and never will be, but faith in humanity and friends definitely is. Lean on folk, they will understand.
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Regarding faith and religion, even the doctors of the church went through constant cycles:
>Atheism
>agnosticism
> theism
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It felt similar. Death, and perhaps my own. Got treated for tako tsubo heart condition.
But it made it easier to deal with. If someone doesn't want you and make it that clear how much you meant to them by just going to the next guy, then the only thing to morn over is the time lost.
I'm better off for it.
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I am not a religious person. I guess, like you, I'm a "non-practicing atheist." I don't believe, but I also don't mind that others do. However, I attend church every Sunday. I go mainly because my wife wants to go. But the important thing is, I still enjoy listening to the sermons. There are always things to learn, whether it be spiritual, moral, or historical. I enjoy the company of the other people there. My lack of belief in God doesn't stop me from gaining something from the church.
I think if you can find a community that you like, even if it's through a church, you should capitalize on that. Meet new people, find support, join in something bigger than yourself. It ultimately doesn't matter what you believe, since everyone's faith is a very private thing.
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