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Who's still finding use in it? How do you remove/block people gracefully? How do you handle out of control family? Have you found it to overall be a +1 or -1 in your life over the years? Does FB even matter?
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What's that U.K. stat that got notoriety a few years back? More than 50% of divorces had FB playing a material role in the failure of the marriage? It wasn't a problem in mine but I totally get that. It certainly made my ex-wife unhappy on a regular basis (not with me, but with both our families). I remember when we would post up pictures of my little girl and the family would comment on my sister's kid(s) on that same day but nothing at all on our pic. That stuff doesn't bother me but was awful for my ex.
I'd say it was a -ve in my life and I don't miss it.
Within 2 hours of when I got my profile, I received invites from some of the most sociopathic people I know. People read me stuff that some people (that I know well) post and it isn't anything like what they are irl. It's just a total performance. I hate it.
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I think the studies that Barney references are spot on -- for the most part, they decrease happiness in people. Rarely does anyone say, "You know, I am much happier now that I just read facebook for the past 20 minutes." I will also second the rampant narcissism.
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Dropped it a couple of years ago. They mishandled some privacy invasion stuff and I got out of there. I miss talking hip hop with some long-lost cousins, but that's about it. I still email and call the folks I care about. Mostly annoyed by it now when games and services have SSO for it.Mr. White wrote: So, it's come up in the Train thread, but maybe could be split into its own.
Who's still finding use in it? How do you remove/block people gracefully? How do you handle out of control family? Have you found it to overall be a +1 or -1 in your life over the years? Does FB even matter?
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I mainly use it to post random thoughts I want to keep track of, music I like, band promotion stuff and more than anything, family photo's. It will continue to be great for the family stuff but sometimes I think I screwed up. I should have two accounts, one for band stuff and random things and another for just family. Still, I make do with the one and it's ok.
I have instituted a couple of rules. When I'm with my kids (even family and friends too) I cannot go on FB at all. I can quick post a photo from the phone but I can't check back in on it until they're not around. This is a rule I shouldn't have had to make, but my weaknesses made it necessary. Another is that I'm not allowed to post when I'm at work, another rule that shouldn't be necessary but unfortunately it is.
All in all I think it's a plus one, I mentioned in that other thread that I wrote a song for a fellow musician I know as a FB post and it's one of the best things I've ever done on FB. It was some post he had made about the sorry state of New County and specifically about Luke Bryan. He had said that outlaw country was just 'laying in the gutter strung out on drugs' and some people were pissy about the comment. I said I thought it was funny and I bet it could be a cool song title. Then, in the post, I wrote a quick song as an example and he sent back a recorded version that I quickly laid down some other instruments on...
I'd like to do more of that and him and I have planned on it plus we've organized a show together as a tribute to Townes Van Zandt as well. I've also met some other musicians that I now play with or at least do shows with and that is pretty awesome. So I think it can be a plus one if you implement some simple rules, stick to them, and find a way to make it work for you. I know that I'd miss seeing you on there (even though it's rare to see you on there) and I'd miss those brief little conversations we had on PM too. But ultimately I think it is mostly a waste and I know that none of my best friends even have accounts and they seem happier for it.
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fock that FB noise. Ugh, I hate reliving these moments.
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Further, it creates a false notion of what a "friend" is and degrades true face-to-face friendships. I think it is leading to less tolerance among real friends, and making people seek the internet as a refuge where they find self-worth.
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Space Ghost wrote: To add to this, overall, I think it is a negative for society. It allows people to carefully construct a "bubble" of people that only agree with them -- which often times just reinforces their views. In turn, I think this leads to less open-mindedness to different ideas or viewpoints, which ultimately stifles individual growth. It is just another component in the dumbing down of society that is further amplified through the creation and reinforcement of divisions (most of which center around politics -- probably more of a problem in the US than in other countries).
Further, it creates a false notion of what a "friend" is and degrades true face-to-face friendships. I think it is leading to less tolerance among real friends, and making people seek the internet as a refuge where they find self-worth.
That will continue to be an issue and won't go away by ignoring it. Any new technology takes time for society to digest and we need to think about how it effects us (the medium really is the message). Only by taking part and learning how to use the tool properly can we prepare ourselves for the world as it is will be. For me I know my son will be growing up in this brave new world and I want to learn how to utilize it in the most constructive way possible and to do that I need to take part in a healthy manner. A part of me thinks that I need to stay plugged in a little bit just to learn how to deal with all this stuff so when my son starts coming of age I am able to give him useful advice (and monitor him a bit).
But yes, without a very specific purpose it can be very bad for you.
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My wife browses all the time, but literally literally never posts. She just sees what other people are up to. Like a creeper.
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Downsides? That kid that you went to elementary school through high school with and still never hung out but you rode the same bus with - He's gonna want to be your friend. Same with every ex-high school girlfriend. And the kid you gave the pink belly to on the soccer team. Also, lots of ex-coworkers.
Here's the deal - they are mostly harmless - say sure - mark them as an "aquaintance" and that will keep them off your feed.
My rules for making Facebook useful and fun:
1. There's a reason they have different levels of relationship - Use that to keep clutter from people you don;t care about off your front page.
2. If someone is filling your feed with stuff you could care less about, there are options to see less or none of them - just click on the posts
3.. If someone is spamming content and is a horrible person that links your name and the name of every person on their friends list - remove your tag, let them know if it's someone you care about (like your aunt or something) that if they do it again you're unfriending them, otherwise just delete them.
4. If someone starts drama in your comments - you have editorial control - nuke them from orbit - and consider unfriending them.
5. Your close friends and close family- mark them as such - You'll get the content from the people you really care about.
EDIT : I Forgot - Unfriending is no big deal - They don't get a message that says - SO AND SO IS NO LONGER YOUR FRIEND>
/Sullivan you should come to Facebook
//Schoenthal's kid is hella cute! Emily should be allowed to compete!
///There's a decktech group.....that sorely needs a Bradford and a Sullivan.
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There's also a support group for my religion on FB that I find very helpful as a place to discuss and vent about things. I suppose that could exist on a web forum or something, but having it on FB is nice.
I travel a lot, so it's an easy way to connect with friends and family around the world.
Yeah, you get the dumb memes and bloviating political stuff (from all sides), but you also get funny memes and some thoughtful posts and articles.
Btw, if anyone wants to connect there, look up "Eric Herman West Richland."
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After college I kind of took a big step back from it. From about 2007-2011 I hardly used it at all. I moved into a new place with a couple friend around then so we used it to set up parties and invite people. I think it's still a very useful tool for that, but I hardly check FB at all anymore, and I'm not as into hosting parties either.
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